Accepting the Impermanence of Life

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“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” Pema Chodron

Separation challenges a systematic belief. When we walk into a marriage we tend to see ourselves growing old together. We come to believe this is how life should be. We try to do everything in our power to prove to ourselves that we made the right choice. We arrive at this foundational belief of: “till death due us part”. Therefore, even when we find ourselves unhappy for years, we still keep going. We keep working on it. We keep trying. Continue reading “Accepting the Impermanence of Life”

Accepting The Loss

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“If we’re willing to give up hope that insecurity and pain can be exterminated, then we can have courage to relax with the groundlessness of our situation.” Pema Chodron

Separation and divorce brings a sense of loss with itself. The loss may not necessarily be a bad thing, but it definitely changes the dynamic of our life. As human beings we easily get used to things. Change is not easy to accept. We are creatures of habit. Waking up at a certain time everyday. Buying our coffee from the same coffee shop. Going to the same hairdresser for years. We all get comfortable with our own routines and rituals in life. We become accustom to them and start identifying ourselves with those routines. The activities become habits; which gradually translate to who we are, or at least who we think we are.  Continue reading “Accepting The Loss”

How I Sat With My Fear

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“You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.” Ekhart Tolle

It was January of 2015 when I took my level two meditation. This was another weekend retreat. The level is called “Birth of A Warrior”, an interesting name for this level. That weekend was an emotionally painful experience for me. Later when I was asked by other meditators of what I thought about that level, I recall saying “it was deliciously painful.” (I would repeat that level first opportunity I find as I learned so much about myself through the experience of that weekend)

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